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[Harlowe]

Fallakin you are either a pathological liar, entirely disconnected from this generation or in a state of deep, ignorant denial. This is the era of "Girls Gone Wild" they are fucking just like the guys do and more than that, they are making out with girlfriends in order to turn guys on. There literally is no difference unless you are over 30 or are seriously & deeply disconnected from the mainstream of young adults.

Young adults have sex sooner, are more experimental and definitely give blowjobs sooner.

I think you just wish it were the way it use to be and you could be a big slut and girls had to be pure in order to please guys. You and your friends who don't feel manly if they can't claim purity in their girlfriends can talk all big about OH DIRTY SLUTS I WOULD NEVER TOUCH THAT blah blah blah. But this is a new era and chicks are enjoying sex the same way guys have for eons. There is no difference, unless you are old or ignorant.

That's progress.

[Fallakin Kuvari]

Actually two of my friends are the biggest manwhores I know, and they don't give a shit how many guys a chicks been with. 2 of us are in committed relationships and the last guy is still a virgin at 22.

The virgin doesn't want to just hook up with a chick from the bar scene to lose his V-card cause he doesn't want to "just bang some slut" even though all of us have told him just to get his dick wet and get it over with. The other guy in a committed relationship has only ever slept with one girl, and they're practically married.

Of the two "manwhores" one of them is currently trying to sleep with all of a group of 5 girls and see how long it takes them to figure it out (I'm betting with the 3rd since he's already banged one of them twice).

[Harlowe]

I'm not sure what point you were trying to make. No matter how many times or ways you try to frame it, the facts are not there to validate your claim. Each generation changes the playing field and where sex is concerned, this is the most equal it's ever been. There is relatively no difference anymore between male or female sluts in this generation. A virgin, whether it is a male or a female is probably equally not going to want to hook up with a slut. So your virgin friend not wanting to hook up with a slut his first time is no different than what a virgin girl might feel.

The equality of sluts, is simply society now within the current generation of 20-somethings. Unless you are in a small town or travel within a small circle of friends, you won't even know who is or is not a slut anyway unless they tell you.

[Fallakin Kuvari]

I'm not sure I was trying to make a point... eh whatever.

[Select]

Speaking of your fear of VD's. You and your partner better be getting tested regularly (at least once a year if you've changed partners) no matter how many you've each been with. If you're sleeping so casually you can't ask, you better be using a condom. Otherwise, you're more of an idiot in this day and age.

[Ariannda Kusanagi]

Personally I think it's disgusting on both sides to just go out and fuck everyone all the time. I'm not saying it's a bad thing to have a fling, or a fuck buddy or a one night stand but to just sleep with people because your horny, she's hot or whatever seems like a lack of self control to me.

[Klast Brell]

Falakin:
You worry about a woman with diseases. Is that male sex hero going to the clinic to get his shit disinfected?

As to your V-card friend there is a trick I used a couple times that works pretty well. Find out what women he even remotely finds attractive. Every time they are both at a party bar whatever wait until both have had a few drinks then tell her that you think he likes her. Shouldn't take too long for one of them to make the first move. Lets see how long his willpower holds out when he is being flirted with. For extra effectiveness in case he is blind to what's right in front of him, tell him you think she likes him as well.

Harlowe: Maybe it's just my social circles and it's different in other groups, but in this generation it seems that women have the power. Whatever sexual liberation we have gone through men still disproportionately are the initiators, and women disproportionately are the ones who decide whether this or that suitor is worthy.
Also. If a drunk woman at a party kisses a guy who does not want her she she may be teased but generally her behavior will be seen as non threatening. If a drunk guy tries to kiss a girl who is not interested he is seen as trying to sexually assault her.
Men take on a disproportionate share of the risk. They are expected to Initiate the approach, but are seen as creeps if their approach is not welcome.

[Harlowe]

Personally I think it's disgusting on both sides to just go out and fuck everyone all the time. I'm not saying it's a bad thing to have a fling, or a fuck buddy or a one night stand but to just sleep with people because your horny, she's hot or whatever seems like a lack of self control to me.

This wasn't about judging sluts one way or the other morally, simply stating that in this "GGW" era, girls can be just as equally slutty as guys. There is no difference in character.

Young people are definitely more sexually active than the generation before them.

Klast, I wasn't talking about who has the power or takes more risks, just simply what I said above. I should have been more clear, but what I am saying is sexuality is different for each generation and the playing field with regard "sluttiness" is pretty even.

[Fallakin Kuvari]

Falakin:
You worry about a woman with diseases. Is that male sex hero going to the clinic to get his shit disinfected?

As to your V-card friend there is a trick I used a couple times that works pretty well. Find out what women he even remotely finds attractive. Every time they are both at a party bar whatever wait until both have had a few drinks then tell her that you think he likes her. Shouldn't take too long for one of them to make the first move. Lets see how long his willpower holds out when he is being flirted with. For extra effectiveness in case he is blind to what's right in front of him, tell him you think she likes him as well.

Not really, I don't sleep around so its not something I even remotely have to worry about. I've had one partner for the past few years, we've been married for six months now... Lets be honest, if I were single and out in the bar scene hooking up I probably wouldn't even care... I'd probably be more worried about getting my dick wet

As to my friend, you have no idea how clueless he is.

[Select]

Have you ever been tested?

[Fallakin Kuvari]

Yes, they've been negative every time.

[Ariannda Kusanagi]

I wasn't judging, I was simply stating my opinion. I think there is a bit of difference in character because of the way both men and women operate. Men want to get fucked, women want someone to want them. Such is not always the case on either side but it seems to hold generally. However you're 100% correct in saying this (or younger) generation(s) are much more sexually active then the generations before them. Part of it rests in the fact the stigma has been removed. It's ok to be a single parent, where as it used to be unthinkable, and everyone's more vocal about it where it used to be kept behind closed doors. Riddle me this Harlowe, in this day and age how does one enforce the idea that abstinence or at the very least minimizing sexual partners is the most effective way to have sex, combined with protection (of course) to keep yourself safe and unpregnant ?



Fallakin got married ?

[Select]

Riddle me this Harlowe, in this day and age how does one enforce the idea that abstinence or at the very least minimizing sexual partners is the most effective way to have sex, combined with protection (of course) to keep yourself safe and unpregnant ?

If you're talking about teens, you educate them, give them their options, and give them the tools to protect themselves. If they're smart, they'll make smart decisions. If they're not, they'll do something stupid despite being well informed. Then you can go kick yourself for producing stupid kids. Things will happen no matter what. The only true protection is an understanding of consequence.

If you're talking about yourself, all you can do is educate yourself and your partners and make decisions you consider "safe". You can't control others.

Fallakin got married ?

That won't last. He probably has "her" locked in his closet with the batteries on his bedside table.

[Harlowe]

Riddle me this....argh that's lame.

But Selet answered it the same way I would. It's all about education, communication and also I think about being a good example or inspiration for them. Stress education, not just sex education, but education and learning in general. The more intelligent and educated your teen is the better the choices they make will be. Make school and their education an absolute priority in your home. Be involved in that process. Give them other opportunities to learn. If you are excited about knowledge and education, you'll infuse them with that same appreciation and intellectual curiousity. Be open and approachable, but don't try to be their buddy because it makes you feel young. Not to say you can't enjoy them and relate to them, but I'd say the whole "me and my teen are bff's" thing trying to be cool and not old, never does shit for preparing them for life and making good choices.

Basically, the whole "Knowledge is Power" thing.

I wasn't judging, I was simply stating my opinion.

Not to nitpick, but your opinion was passing judgement.

Personally I think it's disgusting on both sides to just go out and fuck everyone all the time.

And my point was regarding the playing field, not on what is or is not right or disgusting or morally reprehensible.

[wende darling]

I will never understand why sexual activity is considered anymore reprehensible than any other thing we do for pleasure. Our society drinks and smokes and drives too fast. We sit in front of our video games for hours, stuff our faces full of food, etc, etc, etc. All of those things have consequences socially, physically, emotionally, and financially. Why is sex any different if all parties involved are consensual, of age, and as safe as possible while doing it?

[Taxious]

this is a new era and chicks are enjoying sex the same way guys have for eons. There is no difference, unless you are old or ignorant.

Why do lesbians (even young ones) have a lot loss sexual partners compared to gay men (or even straight men)?

I will never understand why sexual activity is considered anymore reprehensible than any other thing we do for pleasure. Our society drinks and smokes and drives too fast. We sit in front of our video games for hours, stuff our faces full of food, etc, etc, etc. All of those things have consequences socially, physically, emotionally, and financially. Why is sex any different if all parties involved are consensual, of age, and as safe as possible while doing it?

Perhaps back in the day when men had all of the power (instead of just most of it ) they hated to see their women sleeping around, so they made it a social stigma to do so.

[Harlowe]

You know, the young lesbians I know are just as slutty as the sluttiest hetero chicks I know and their drama is also WAY more over the top (the lesbians). I think middle-aged lesbians are a hell of a lot more tame, but they are from another generation.

[Taxious]

Why are you comparing lesbians to straight women? I thought you were claiming that young women and men are sexually equal in my generation. If that's true, lesbians should be having just as many sexual partners as gay men (or even straight men) are having.

[Harlowe]

It's not really apples to apples. Gay men also have more partners than straight men.

I'll repeat my point again, in this day and age young women can be equally slutty and there really isn't a different stigma for it than being a slutty male.

[Taxious]

OIC, so young women are just as sexually free as men... sometimes. Thanks for clearing that up.

Seriously though, even comparing straight women I know to straight men, the stigma of topic is very much still there. At least in my experience in Colorado.